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What’s Love got to do with it?

For those of us who celebrate St Valentine’s Day, (February 14th) this is the day of all things love and friendship. For the traditional romantics gifts will defiantly include red roses. a dozen of the finest. For that extra special someone possibly chocolates and a fine piece of jewellery too.


A wonderful gesture however, for some, flowers may not be so welcomed as the receiver could have an allergy and dark chocolate perhaps preferable to milk chocolate. Maybe just the jewellery. I’m happy with all or a subset.


Did you know that there are 5 different love languages? According to Gary Chapman, author of ‘The Five Love Languages’ they are:

* Acts of service

* Receiving gifts

* Physical touch

* Quality time

* Words of affirmation


We are all very different, with likes dislikes and personalities therefore we give and receive love in different ways. In Chapman’s book he outlines the five general ways that people can express and experience love.

Chapman says, “By learning to recognize these preferences in yourself and in your loved ones, we can learn to identify the root of our conflicts, connect more profoundly, and truly begin to grow closer”.


Here at the centre, we often talk about treating people equally well and not the same as we are all unique. I remember often, the adage, “Different strokes for different folks”.


As we plan to celebrate the day of love and friendship, let us think more deeply about how / what love and friendship looks like to them. If in doubt ask the question, be-it at home or at work.

What’s love got to do with it? …Everything.


Happy Valentines and Friendship Day.


Unsure of your love language you can take the test here:

The Love Language Quiz


And if you do get it wrong knowing your apology language may help too!

Apology Language

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